Doctor, what are the symptoms? ヾ(●´▽｀●)ﾉ彡☆勹”ﾉヽﾉヽﾉヽﾉヽﾉヽ
You are going about your day when someone makes a demand of you and it sounds more like an order. Sometimes it can sound like “Fill this out FOR ME.” UGh, that part really gets under my skin.
Couldn’t they have simply asked nicely?
Or if you are in a stuffy office you might make a comment out loud and have it quickly shot down or countered. Shutting you up for good. Just like a pin in a balloon prick.
The comment opens the floodgates of emotions.
You may or may not seem calm on the outside. But inside, several emotions are swirling about.
Embarrassment, your mind is programmed to play the scenario over and over again, pain, foolishness, you feel like a dunce. You feel scared because you don’t know what the right way to act is going forward. If you say another comment you might get the same treatment and appear weak. Enough of this treatment may cause you to run, to close up shop before you’ve even gotten started.
Welcome to adulthood!
You might even run and get a book like this because you think the problem is you. And you may be intuitive? There that has to be a problem, right?
But don’t run, stay put for now, eh?
Problem: Why is navigating the working world so hard, you may ask as you reflect. WHY ARE YOU SO WEAK? You know whose fault this is? It’s your mom’s…or it’s your family’s if they ONLY raised you to be a bitch this wouldn’t have happened but you had to go and care about other people’s feelings right?!
Take heart that you aren’t the only person with this problem that is now addressed as mental health.
I can’t be the only person feeling it. Do YOU feel this way at work?
Your Inner Strength is Calling You
Because now a wave of women having a voice, taking charge of their lives and careers has happened it’s a good time to look inside to what is missing.
Now with a greater role in the workforce, we have to see the light that has come on some of our shortcomings. Navigating how to be strong at work through negative scenarios or striking that line of confident while not sounding like a nag.
It’s murking waters here and it’s not our fault.
It doesn’t have to be a drag going into work. Work should be an enjoyable experience for us.
What’s missing is this.
The Right Tools for Every Situation
There are a plethora of career coaches out there and I never really thought much about them. I was always focused on the role my emotions played.
But in order to become stronger, we need to repetitively learn the right ways to act in different scenarios. That way we build up our tool belt and strength, instead of just blindly acting on our emotions or saying what we think sound right. Spouting off demands for sheer brawn rather than for an actual purpose.
This article with Dr. Lois P. Frankel really helped me learn more about myself and how to act at work. Are these problems something that you struggle with too?
A reputable career coach may be able to help with strengthening your inner walls so that they are harder to rattle. Especially for those of us who are emotionally sensitive. it may be something to look into.
Now over to you: What are some scenarios that you find difficult to navigate? How do you handle them now?