Self-Help

How-to Build Resilience in Adults: Part 4 of 4

At the #CreateCultivateLA conference, Kim Kardashian gave some sage advice.

She said, ” Show up. Do the work. Don’t be lazy. There’s no shortcut.”

Ah, yes… hello truth. Sometimes you just need it served straight up.

Work.. it may not always be the glamorous experience you want. But if you take consistent repeated, action each day then you will find yourself where you want to be. At the top of the mountain and beyond….

Work has every bit to do with building resilience to stress and difficult situations.

Are you wondering, “Can Resilience Be Learned?”

Yes, it can, take a look at these prior articles to get more insight into resiliency and my personal test with resilience.

1.Part 1: Have Faith
2.Part 2: Have Determination
3.Part 3: Have Fun

YOU have what it takes to be resilient in the face of adversity!

You can build resiliency. But it damn sure won’t be easy.

In fact, the situation you’re in right now is paramount to your future!

To your character. It’s a true hidden gem. Trust the process.

Here are some tips to help ease your stress. They will help you build resilience and become more resilient.

1. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone During Trying Times

It is super easy to succumb to the emotional pressure we put ourselves under.

From fears to worst case scenarios. It’s tough to build personal resilience in the workplace or in your personal life when you already have so much to balance.

You can build personal resilience in yourself if you allow crystal clear creative positive energy into your emotional space.

Here is an example of what I mean:

I recently ventured out of my usual comfort zone. I checked out a lecture.

Tip: Check out a local event that builds enrichment!

You may be surprised at what information is waiting JUST FOR YOU. *Thanks, universe!*

The lecture I went to was Dan Pink. He is a writer and speaker.

Now, he studies timing. His new book, When, says that each of us has productive hours at certain times of the day.

He also includes fun tidbits like the best time to get a divorce, the best time to marry, the best time to go first and or last during an interview.

He mentions that based on chronobiology people fall into three categories.

Larks, Night Owls, and Third birds.

Some of us do our best work and have the most energy in the morning. On the opposite end of the scale, others reach their peaks at night.

He said that people who are Larks should do their most analytical work in the morning.

Then, during their downtime or “trough,” larks should do our administrative tasks, such as email. Tasks that require less brain-power.

Fun fact: About roughly 60-80 percent of the population are third birds. You can find your chronotype with this “daily when” planner.

Just make sure to record your mental and physical energy at each time for one week. Then take a look at the pattern that has formed.

The hours with the highest amount of mental energy or peak energy is when you should do your most brain-intensive tasks!

2. Schedule It

I’m sure you hear this tip a lot.

I’m the type of person that likes to make mental notes in my head of what I need to do.

Or, sometimes I make a to-do list. However, if you schedule something you are more likely to complete it.

How does this intertwine with being resilient?

Well, perhaps a better question would be: What does resilient mean?

Google defines the word resilient as: (Of a person or animal) able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.

On your path, you will definitely experience setbacks. There will be instances where you don’t get what you thought you would.

During these times build your emotional resilience it’s important to understand that what you thought you missed was simply not meant for you.

It’s likely you dodged a bullet.

Quickly recover and resume your schedule. By being focused and creating a consistent routine you WILL reach success.

Use a scheduling tool such as Asana to help you reach your goals. Little things add up if you do them daily. Just think about investments. If you invest $500 dollars over time you will have $1,000 and eventually $5,000.

3. Take Breaks

Contrary to popular belief that you should work your butt off until you accomplish your goals.

I think it is best to work with your body and mind. Research that has now penetrated the general population’s consciousness is that the brain gets fatigued.

By taking a 15-minute break every 45-90 minutes you can restore your mind and energy. Studies show that a walk outside might be the best type of restorative break.

Find what works best for you. It could even be the Pomodoro Technique. Where you work for 20-25 minute breaks and then take a 5 or 10-minute break.

4. The Power of Small Wins

I’m the type of person that expects INSTANT results.

But, when you have a project or are working toward a desired outcome its best to make a commitment that you are in it for the long haul.

You can appreciate the power of small wins which line your path toward the larger goal. You know like the yellow-brick road in The Wizard of Oz.

You’ve heard to say a little bit of work each day leads to greater accomplishments.

Start small and don’t get frustrated when you don’t achieve great results instantly. Life sometimes is a marathon and not a sprint.

5. In Sync with the Universe

In this crazy mixed-up world, you may wonder what predicament you just got yourself into.

Did you quit your job? Are you faced with a really scary challenge? Do you struggle financially?

One of the things that can help you is a bit is in the metaphysical realm.

Stay with me here- we often want to know answers to life’s big questions.

Like, how did I get here? Why am I going through a tough time right now?

It’s important to state that yes, everything does happen for a reason.

When it all comes down to it, you need to trust the universe. What I’ve learned is that we often cause ourselves unnecessary stress with our worries and fears.

You know what I’m talking about. You’re put in a scary position and then your mind starts to wonder what the heck you just did.

Then, you proceed to think of every bad, terrible situation that could happen.

When you do this you not only lower your vibration, but you start to get in your own way and stop the process of receiving.

Know that you are where you should be.

Be conscious of your decisions as you move forward. Be sure to make life-supportive choices.

But, above all this thing you call a disaster happening in your life might be the gateway to your new life.

The life that you were meant to lead all along. That’s the funny thing about life. ☺

There you have it. If you want to be resilient you have to roll up your sleeves even when you don’t want to, put in the work, trust the process and be in it for the long haul.

One more thing!

If you want to build emotional resilience at work or in your personal life remember:

If you are feeling not very motivated. It may not be totally you! Your body may be lack nutrients it needs to perform it’s best.

Check out these good-for-you foods that you can take:

1. GOOP Vitamins
2. Protein Smoothies
3.Lion’s Mane Mushroom
4.Maca Powder (my favorite)
5.Matcha Green Tea
6.Coffee with espresso!
7. Olly Gummy Vitamins – I just started taking this. Don’t take too many vitamins at a time. Either use GOOP vitamins or another brand, but not both.

8. Green smoothies every now and then do the body well

Do you have particular methods for achieving results?

What are your favorite resiliency techniques?