Mentoring Programs: The Girls Guide to Solo Holidays

Mentoring Programs

It looks like the holidays are here again!

Sweeping in at a rapid pace, they will be over before we even realize.

But First I Want to Ask…

How’s your life going?

I see so many women on the bus and train that I often wonder what it is you’re thinking.

What’s bothering you?

What aspect of your life would you improve if you could?

This can be emotionally or spiritually.

I really want to know because there should be a conversation about these issues.

I am readily checking my comments! In fact, you’re probably not the only one who feels a certain way! Or shares a certain problem.

Anyway back to the holidays now, shall we? Suppose you’re a working gal. You moved to a new city; you’re living an independent woman’s life and all that jazz ;).

Kudos to you! You’ve got it going on! People probably don’t say that enough do they?

However, there’s one exception… you’re staying local for the holidays. You think it’s perfectly fine to do this.

I suspect more people stay local for the holidays then we think. In fact yesterday I was at a local store, and the lad behind the checkout counter said he spent the holiday with co-workers.

There’s Nothing Wrong With That

Sometimes we want to be alone to think, to decompress. Not every part of our life has to be surrounded by crowds of people, possibly having forced fun.

It’s still a bit taboo to think this way.

We want to do and be what is socially acceptable.

We don’t want to say anything that would make us seem weird…

What Are Your Plans? *Air Quotes*

Now I know, Empowered Lady, you don’t have to answer to anyone, and I get that. But your co-workers might not understand that you are spending the holidays alone.

I’ve had to come prepared with a cover story every year when the holidays roll around.

Hey, I understand where the coworkers are coming from. Imagine if your co-worker told you they’re spending Christmas solo.

Wouldn’t that pull at your heartstrings? A little? Yes. It would. </3

So, yes I would concoct a cover story.

Perhaps say you’re going to a friend’s house. (Unfortunately, that was mine for Thanksgiving).

What To Do During The Solo Holiday?

There are many positive things you can do during the special day.

Rule #1 is don’t wallow in self-pity. 

Instead use this time to reflect on your life, to rest from all the days you get up at 5:30 am five days a week, or you can plan for the future.

What To Notice

There’s a beautiful silence on holidays that I love. Have you ever felt it?

It’s so quiet and still. Hardly anyone is outside or on the street or in the grocery stores.

Mentoring Programs: Prepare Festive Foods

Just because it’s a party of one doesn’t mean you have to eat a ham sandwich!

I encourage you to whip up holiday foods! During Thanksgiving, I made a turkey, and I also had cheesecake. It’s fun to enter into the festivity without all the buzz and noise. That can be draining.

Plus, the fact that you have kitchen skills increases the respect level in anyone’s book.

You look like you have your life together.

Now Christmas is a big holiday. And to spend it alone might feel a little (a lot) weird AT FIRST.

Women’s Empowerment: The Best Investment…

You will come out of spending the holiday’s alone a lot stronger. You can say that you’re truly independent and empowered, and successful.

I believe that more people spend the holidays alone then we think. They just haven’t come forward because it’s a bit taboo!

Why not take this time to learn a new skill?

For me, this is one of my favorite endeavors. Like Jim Kwik, founder of Kwik Learning says the best investment you can make is in yourself.

Unsure of where to start?

I’ve got a suggestion for you.☺


It’s a book and assessment.

You may have heard of it already. You take the assessment online and find out your top 3- 5 strengths.

This book has helped me tremendously because now I know what strengths I can focus on and enhance.

One of my strengths is positivity, which I try to practice each day. Knowledge is power, my friends. And it’s refreshing to find out what you’re good at.

You can purchase the test online or you can purchase the physical book, which comes with an access code to the test. Here’s the website!

Spiritual Growth: Take A Walk; Enjoy The Silence

One of my favorite things to do is take a walk to get a cup of coffee. If you’re unable to do that, then watch TV or enjoy the silence. There are a lot of people who are always busy. And sooner or later you will be one of them as well.

Life happens. But it’s essential for us to slow down, be grateful and be in tune with ourselves.

Being in tune with ourselves is the foundation for success.

A disconnected person, who runs 200 miles a minute, is headed for fall.

Do you ever feel like this is you?

When I feel like I have to get everything done and push myself, I know that it’s time to slow down and regain my balance.

I usually do this by meditation, taking some deep breaths or going for a walk.


Don’t let the crowd tell you what you need to do for the holidays, by the time you’re X age, or any of that. You need to do what makes you feel happy and balanced.

Know there are others who spend the holidays alone. And for that, you shouldn’t be ashamed of. It shows you can take care of yourself and that you’re self-conscious. Meaning aware.

Be an individual, empowered lady. Especially in a world full of copies.

Women’s Empowerment: What do you think of spending the holidays alone?