No significant relationship in sight? Focus on this instead.

Hi Guys,

Are you in a relationship? Or, are do you wish to start one? If that little sign on top of your head says “I’m available!” then this post is for you.

Sure, being in a relationship can be one of the most satisfying feelings in life. As little girls, we dreamt of meeting “the one,” getting swept up in a whirlwind romance, falling in love, marrying and living happily ever after. Just like all those Disney movies, right?

As we get older, more of our friends get married, we really start to feel the heat. When will it be our turn?  Sizzle, sizzle. Gulp.

Well, listen up. You may not like what I’m about to say, but it’s the truth. You deserve to be pursued by a real man that is worthy of you.

And, just because you ache for a relationship doesn’t mean you should grab the closest joe schmoe off the street and start to date.



Don’t insult yourself. Don’t insult US (women).

Waiting can be painful. It’s the hard way after all. No one likes to wait for the love they wanted since they were a young girl. But you can use this time to level up your skills and increase your strength.

And strength is sexy! If you don’t believe me, just listen to Bethany Frankel’s opening line on The Real Housewives of New York which is… “It’s great to be successful but it’s even better to be STRONG.”

Yes. Ladies. What can you do while you wait? Try this instead.

Put yourself first

Ah, love. When you finally meet that special someone one of the best things is being able to take care of them. It’s so easy and natural for some of us. As we are nurturing beings.


Take that nurturing side and focus it on YOU. How boring, right? Where’s the fun in that?

It’s a tough pill to swallow. But you can do it. Because chances are that guy your focused on is way below your real standards. Is he what you really want?

How a diamond is made. Image from

Well, as you keep pushing through your obstacles and better yourself. You will start to uncover a stronger you. It’s very similar to the process of making a diamond.

A beautiful, rare diamond has to go through a couple (or more than that) tough situations that either make or break that diamond! And once that diamond passes enough of life’s tests then it recognizes how beautiful it has become. But, you know what? It has always been beautiful! Just like you!


What have you always wanted to do? What can you do with that dynamic energy that you’ve been using to think about your perfect mate? Redirect it!

Use it to your advantage. Start your business. Travel more. Do something that scares you. Do it alone. Do it SOLO!

And embrace that you are a strong woman that creates her best life ever.

And remember,

No one is going to discover you. You have to put yourself out there. Let go of the fear of rejection and let your light shine.

Before you go,

Focus on polishing your own inner diamond before you find a partner that gives you one.


Share with me: Instead of focusing on your perfect mate, what is one goal you are going to achieve instead?

I’m going to go to more women’s events and take at least two fun trips this summer.