Inner-strength training tip #30: When one door closes listen to it! Another one will open soon. It’s the experience of your life.
What is it about endings? Overall they have the same feeling and when it’s time to leave a job it’s no different. You may have been told there is a layoff coming and you are on the outs. Or maybe one day you’ve woken up and things don’t feel quite the same.
It’s like someone flipped a switch in your life and now the energy is just off. You don’t seem to relate to your co-workers anymore, in fact, you may wonder how you even did in the first place!
You may have just two weeks left at this job but already the signs are very clear that it won’t be a pleasant two weeks.
Even if your time there doesn’t have an expiration date you might feel that you’re too big for the job now. And you’re wearing it like old, outgrown clothes.
Everybody experiences this situation from time to time. What makes it hard is when your coworkers start the moving full steam ahead without you. You may feel left behind.
Here are the signs to look for that say you are being pushed out:
- Interactions with your co-workers are tense like they don’t have time for you anymore
- You just don’t feel welcome anymore, not in an “I’m too sensitive” way. But more like a legitimate, they want me out I can tell!” kind of way
- Manager or authority figures openly speak with other co-workers about the future, but there is no talk of a future with you
- You may respond to the lack of care you are receiving by acting needier, which results in your co-workers pulling back from you (at least somebody shows that you care!)
- There is a lack of patience for any slight mistakes you may make
- In realizing the short time frame you have left at your job, you reveal too much personal information which causes your co-workers to respect you a little bit less
- Suddenly you don’t want to go into work anymore and find excuses not to be there
- You have random daydreams that your boss is going to fire you
Ok, ok before you freak out, you should know there are different paths you can travel down with this scenario:
You or somebody else is just having a bad day. There’s no other issue.
How to deal:
If the signs are present don’t panic! You or your manager might just be having a bad day. You could be too sensitive on this day and actually pick up some of the tension that exists in your workplace.
This tension might not involve you at all. You just never quite know for sure with these situations as there is always so many variables.
If someone has made a mean comment toward, have a strong poker face. You can turn this day around and not spin out of control like a loose top from the emotional murkiness of not knowing why someone behaved the way they did.
Usually when people freak out consistently they are unhappy and feeling loads of underlying pressure so when you came around they decided to hit you with a mean comment to release some of this pressure.
If your environment and interactions with your co-workers and boss have been pleasant up until this point then don’t take it too personally.
Carry on with your day and remember to stay strong because you are strong enough to make it through anything!
Don’t fold just because one person tried to come for you! If you feel that your workday has pushed you to your breaking point, realize that behind that breaking point is more strength.
In the end, as long as the work gets done and you remain calm, that is how you handle and win this game.
Now get back to work!
It’s happening. For real this time.
How to deal:
They don’t want you there: for some reason, you can tell they just don’t like you.
It could just be who you are at your core that irks these people. Most of the time when people put a target on another’s back it’s because they have so much turmoil in their own life that it’s spilling over.
This could be a looming divorce, alcohol problems, depression, or just that they are all around negative people.
You may feel like you can’t even talk to a manager because they aren’t even on your side! You can tell they just don’t like you and that you don’t belong or they don’t want you to belong.
If this is the case you must suit up in your armor until you find a new job. If you are determined to stay at this job then you will probably be able to make it through. But it will be a battle for sure!
Are you up to the challenge?
If you’ve been pushed out of a job, what did it feel like? What were the signs?