Inner-strength training #20: No matter how many people want you to fail, you must shake it off and keep moving forward
You’re at work per usual, trying to climb the ranks. Get yourself out of the trenches.
You have the utmost energy to put toward your career. Right now, it’s your center-focus. You may have just knocked a huge responsibility out of the park, like giving a work presentation or finishing up a project for your manager.
You try really hard and envision advancement at this company. Does anyone notice?
You pay attention to how you dress, you always eat breakfast, you show up early. Hey, sometimes you’re even 1 step ahead of your manager during the day.
You try to be an 8 on the assertive level, not a 10. Nobody likes a 10.
But, while everything on paper looks good, your co-workers aren’t as nice or open as they used to be and you notice a shift around you.
That’s odd, but did the co-worker who you always have friendly banter with just roll their eyes at you?
Did a manager really just cut you off mid-thought when you made a good point? Is your manager even in your corner anymore?
While you are too busy excelling at your job, you don’t notice the signs of tension around you that are clear as day.
- You’re not invited to meetings that you once were
- You have outgrown your work environment. It feels like you don’t belong
- Demoted from your authority positions in favor of a new employee
- In meetings, managers or authority figures cut you off and/or don’t give your comments any real consideration
- Interactions with your manager have tension
- Managers or authority figures exclude you in meetings or seem to form a bond with other employees that they listen to
- Your friendly attempts with other employees are met with a cold stare or a nasty expression
- Your ideas are never implemented, instead, they are picked apart while other ideas are implemented
- When on a work project, others try to dominate the project and push you to the sidelines
- Your manager throws you and your under the bus in front of other employees (to save face)
- Authority figures roll their eyes at you
- Authority figures make it difficult for you to get ahead, sometimes it seems like they want you to fail
- Your comments (even not work-related) are met with criticism and frequently there is a counterargument against every statement you make
- It seems your managers embrace one co-worker but fail to recognize how much effort you are putting in (working on weekends, coming in early)
- You have no real allies at your job
- A decrease in job satisfaction
- Slowly being ostracized from your team
Honestly, you need to assess the situation that you are in because it can be different for everyone. There are many intricacies to your situation and the “why” behind them.
What I can say is that you feel utterly boxed in in terms of your growth and find yourself grasping at straws to find out the truth, whether you will be let go, or are you getting left behind for a reason. Then, it could be time to consider a new job.
Don’t make this decision too hastily!
If you’ve already experienced a loss at this job then the behavior of your manager and co-workers might be the breaking point.
For example, if you went out for a big promotion and you were so sure that you got the job, and then you find out you didn’t get it and then on top of that you feel that you aren’t connecting with anyone and are being excluded from your team.
Another option is that you could wait the situation out.
Your work environment could get better in time. Perhaps this is just a rough patch that you have to brave. Little do you know that you have a promotion coming to you in the next few months.
Why not apply for other jobs within the company to start? Have you tried doing that?
Otherwise, this might be your wake up call that you need to move on.
Carefully examine this option. This is your paycheck we are talking about!
Ask yourself some questions.
Do you hold in so much pain because of the criticism and competition you’ve put up with?
Do you dread going to work all the time?
Are you calling out again and concerned you might get fired because of it?
Do you feel stuck?
Can you talk to your boss’s boss?
If you feel stuck in your current situation at work, you may think speaking with your manager’s superior will help you succeed. However, even that can prove to be challenging (in some cases).
In business, there are so many relationships and dynamics that you have to be aware of. And while it seems like your boss’s boss should be on your side, in reality, she might not want to rock the boat with your direct manager. They could have a symbiotic relationship. Where both parties are needed to coexist in an environment
Your boss’s boss may listen to you, but they may not take action toward remedying the situation.
The superior may not want to rock the boat with your direct manager.
However, this is not the truth in all circumstances. And sometimes your boss’s superior will gladly help you move forward.
Is it time for a recruiter?
If you cannot wait for balance to be restored at your job and you need to escape this sabotaging environment, why not see a recruiter?
A recruiter is a person who places you in a job. They get paid by a company when you successfully hired. Sometimes, it’s free to meet with one. They learn a little bit about your work history and find the best job for you. Recruiters work pretty quickly, and when I used one, it took me 1 month to be placed in a sophisticated job that I would have never found searching on Indeed and other job boards.
Do you feel that there are signs of tension around you at work? Why do you think that is?