Inner-Strength Training Tip #5: Be strong enough to work toward a common goal.
A girl who is obviously younger than you is your superior. I’m not going to sugarcoat things and say this is totally awesome. In reality, it can be a little bump to your ego. Hello, shouldn’t you get something for being older and wiser?
Just know that this may be a scenario that requires a bit of an adjustment period. And there may be some ups and downs along the way.
- Embarrassed that you have to take orders from someone who is younger
- Power struggle
- A negative swirl in the air when you both speak to each other
- Feeling slightly thrown off balance when they mention their achievements
- A desire for control of the situation
- Plays for power and dominance
Pushy, assertive, domineering. These words can all be used to describe your young superior’s management style. Really, it depends on how old they are and how much life experience they’ve had up to this point. But, chances are they are bossing you around like you don’t know a darn thing.
Which isn’t quite true….. You know a lot.
But look, she is young. And this is how she feels.
She pushes boundaries, she is a changemaker.
She is meant to shake up old ways of doing things with their fresh perspective.
Your girl wants to be taken seriously as a person! You were her once. Understand her.
She knows she’s young and she’s also still figuring herself out. It may seem like she has all the answers but, really, she is still learning the ropes of life and might be quite naive.
It’s not wise for you to compete with her. So, before you get your feathers ruffled when she asks you to throw away a piece of trash like you are her minion. Take a breath. Tearing another down is a step-back for all women-kind.
You worked VERY hard and you’ve been in the game for YEARS now.
Let’s just say you have sharpened your skills, you paid the price, got played a couple times, triumphed, failed, contributed long hours, blood, sweat, tears, the whole nine yards.
By this time, you’ve got it all figured out.
At the very least, you’ve earned the respect of others, right? A spot at the table.
So, why is this young chick stepping on your toes and bossing you around like you’re her grandma?
There’s bound to be some power struggles until you both get to know each other as people, find common ground and your dynamic at work.
This can take some trial-and-error.
And, I encourage you to experiment with what works best for both of you. Don’t be afraid to feel the guilt because she is getting under your skin. Or, to feel momentary frustration with the situation. Because if your intention is to enhance communication and harmony in this relationship then this is just a part of your path to that goal.
You should never tear-down, resent, or continue to feel unchecked jealousy toward another.
Take a temperature reading of yourself. You know how you feel, so don’t mask it. It’s incredibly hard to be honest with yourself. But, if you find yourself feeling jealous then that is work that you need to do on yourself. Take a moment to understand the root cause of your feelings. You can do this by continually asking yourself “why?” until you get to the bottom of your feelings.
One action you can take is to continue to shine your light in your own way.
Remember you and this girl are two separate individuals with two entirely different sets of gifts.
There are many sides and dimensions of working together toward successfully completing a goal. There is no “one ultimate person with every positive skill and no fear or weaknesses at all.”
A team of individuals is what makes a company thrive.
No matter how amazing their skillset seems, you contribute to the common goal in your own ways.
Whether that is with wisdom, precision, thoroughness, or just experience.
Respect is a profitable common ground. Meaning, you and the person in questions, plus the entire company can thrive when you respect and trust one another.
You should also think back to a time you were disrespected.
How did it feel?
Especially If you were ever in an authority position, you know how unnerving it can be when someone doesn’t follow your orders.
Additionally, if you feel any bone of competitiveness linger or the need to be seen as the one that is more in control then remember that people can always read confidence.
Your job is to be an adult. To be respectful, but to assert yourself if others cross boundaries and try to make an inappropriate power-play.
Whether you think so or not, that younger girl is looking up to you as a role model.
So the best advice here is to always compete with yourself.
There’s nothing that says you have to come second fiddle to her. But there always is an element of respect that you have to be mindful of.
Compete with yourself
Instead of getting involved with who is on top and who is on the bottom in the power play, focus on bettering yourself always. Compete with yourself.
And ultimately operate under the goal of team-building and working together.
Be the steady one.
The one that always does a good job consistently.
Be a strong presence.
Your track record speaks for you. And you don’t have to get caught up in the race if you don’t let yourself.
Have you ever been in a situation like this? How did it play out?